BLOG 7 Steps to Build Confidence (Even if you're Shy)     SOCIAL      0 COMMENTS Written by Harry Croose "Confidence comes not from always being right, but not fearing to be wrong ." - Anonymous - Tweet Hey, welcome back to my blog – today we will be talking about the vital importance of building confidence. Now to many when we talk about the confidence we see someone who is extrovert, charismatic and is seemingly unmarked by negativity and criticism. However, this image of confidence is merely an illusion. Confidence can be shown externally through the means above but also through many more factors in life.  Here are 7 Steps to build confidence. 1. Create Confidence Categories Confidence to me is how one sees themselves but more particularly honed towards a person’s goals for example in social interactions, (which is the most common perception of what a confident person is).  But confidence is so much more than just someone who has master socialising but can also be with someone’s health, finance, career so on and so forth. These Confidence categories are a very important part of raising Self-Awareness as far as confidence is concerned because it can help you identify where you are strong in confidence and where you are less so.  These categories can also go into further sub-categories like health can be further broken down into more segments like nutrition and muscle gain fitness.  This may bring some further awareness to you - as someone could be easily confident in themselves when it comes to eating healthily and looking after his/her nutrition, but that same person may not be confident in muscle gain fitness.  2. Write a Goals List Writing a Goals List, in summary, would be a really good way of not only further affirming your self-awareness of your confidence level but would also give you a clear distinct direction to head in to potentially improve your confidence in certain areas of your life to improve your wellbeing, happiness and success in life. 3. Build foundational habits Building foundational habits is incredibly important for confidence building. Building habits in areas of personal strengths and weakness, such as budgeting in finance and meditation in personal wellbeing. These habits allow you to have the practise and build momentum in the areas you which to improve in your life.   4. Leap of Faith (Be courageous) Sometimes, just taking a dive outside your comfort zone, and being courageous is the quickest way to expand your horizons as far as confidence is concerned. After all, before confidence is courage. Confidence is being contented and able in your own comfort zone, courage is the act to expand your comfort zone. This is the most drastic and possibly the scariest but will get you the most results and insights even if you believe you didn’t do well.   5. Self-Education As you would research for an essay, a way to build confidence in a particular subject whether for academics or for own personal…

BLOG HOW TO NOT CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK     SOCIAL      0 COMMENTS Written by Harry Croose "Someone's Opinion of You - does not have to become your reality." - Les Brown - Tweet For many months, now I was caught into a sneaky way of thinking, which held a lot of knocks to my Self-Esteem and confidence, but now am stronger than ever. Back in Business! Here to give YOU another one of my insights.  Today’s topic is something I learnt from my many months of emotional healing and self-reflection.  A lot of this I’d discovered was that I was caring too much of the opinions of others. Now be careful now don’t take it literally, this phrase is often used when we are essentially fed up, but that is used in a mental framework of a victim. However, this phrase can also be used in as a way of releasing unnecessarily burdens that either you or others have placed on you.  I am here to give you 5 strategies that helped me get over this wall. One quick point first though, remember that other people’s opinions can still have large benefits. Just remember that their opinions do not define who you are. 1. Focus on yourself and your Needs There is an annoying stigma in society, that if you are selfless you are great and if you are selfish you are a horrible person. This form of assumption, that allows unkind people to take advantage of you – due to your social complexes on ‘what is right’. How to solve this would be to solely focus on yourself. I know right so selfish! But you need to fill your own cup first as it were, before you start helping others. I am not saying to go out your way to be unkind to someone (even if they deserve it) but merely to prioritise yourself other everything else, and yes even your family. The more you invest in yourself today – the more you will be able to help them in the future. In fact, helping yourself first will likely mean you will be in a much better position to help others more so then even if you were too selfless of your own needs and desires. This topic is such a big one that I have wrote a separate blog post here – How to fulfil your needs. 2. Establish Strong Independent Boundaries Establish concrete boundaries in different areas of your life. Whether that be in the realms of love, relationships, friendships, money, emotions, psychology and so on. This mind does not necessarily come from a lack of confidence or self-esteem. I believe that a lack of secure boundaries in these sections of oneself can be one of many reasons that a lack of confidence/ self-esteem continues to manifest in your life. How does this relate to how to not care what other people think? Well, people with what are considered to be weaker boundaries…

BLOG HOW TO DEAL WITH TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS Written by Harry Croose "Hating on someone, or something is only giving power to that thing. It becomes a bigger problem in your mind. It's okay to dislike something, but never hate it - you only lose your power and time." - Harry Croose - Tweet There was a time where I was a hater of people who seemed to have it better than me, but when I started to stop comparing myself to others. I felt so much more free and had a tenfold more time and energy to make the impact I want to make on the world. I am not giving up not now, I will never give up. I am not stopping just because my crush no longer likes me, I am not stopping because I haven't got 50 likes on YouTube or 1000 subscribers I am going to keep pushing ahead; we must together keep pushing forward that is the only way we will truly reach the land we were promised off when we were read a bedtime story with a nice cup of hot chocolate. 1. Distance yourself from Toxic People. Distance yourself from that person or group of people as much as possible. If they are a family member, a close friend or a co-worker, then this is most likely a lot tougher to do rather than someone like an acquaintance or even a stranger. It’s important to realise the effect that they have on you, and how they drain or even change your personality to something you are not. Many people call them energy vampires or even master manipulators who are able to change your personality instantly just by their presence. I'd strongly advise in order to truly break this image, is to talk to them consciously with this idea in mind that they are changing in you in some way; you might be able to either dispel this effect entirely or at least build resistance to their blows grounding yourself in the now.  Taking a hold on your personal power and strength is also a recommended path to take as these encounters can be quite strenuous, to say the least. 2. The Power of Perception Universal Truths like 'Life is too short' and 'the power of gratitude' and how these problems are probably so insignificant to the Universe might help with these feelings of fear or toxicity when confronting them. Now I know I write as if these people are infected like we are in the zombie apocalypse but the majority of this toxicity will probably be your own perception of them and not necessarily them.  But sometimes maybe you will come across someone who is vindictive in their ways and wants to do give themselves the upper hand without any look to the consequences to their actions. 3. Attempt Reconcile Many people would pull the card and would say to retreat and not get involved with them as much as possible.  However I…