Media Mindfulness: The Blessing and Curse of Social Media

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Written by Harry Croose

"We don't have a choice on wether we DO social media, the question is how well we DO it."

Hey all I hope you are well. 🙂 Today, I am going to be talking about Social Media, and the blessing and the curse of it. Unfortunately, in society, there are many cons to have social media, it can be a great tool to use for good, but only if we our truly mindful of what we not only post on social media, but also by what we consume. 
Imagine, for a moment, how big this world is, every happy thing, every sad thing, it i stoo much for one person to bare, social media is a platform where everything and everyone from every persepctive can post, which is both a great thing for free speech, but also a bad thing for clarity and a sense of control. What we consume, gradually creates our own world view, and it is through that, that we see everything. 

1. THE CURSE

           Like I said, let us start with the curse of social media. Again, I am not advocating against free speech, but there needs be a lot more conscious control of how people use this tool. People need to be more careful and more aware on the impact of what they post will have on their readers. When you share something, and someone reads it, they take something from that, you as a user of these platforms have a responsibility to make the online world, a more stable, fun and most importantly positive place.  I am absolutely shocked and disgusted sometimes on what people post on social media, some things should be reserved only for certain eyes, and not displayed like a smelly sock on a washing line. Forgive me if that sounded a bit rant like, but it is common sense, you want to only share cool things, positive things online, as that will reap rewards and attract similar things on your personal feed, making your experience online a lot more fulfilling as if you are contributing to people’s wellbeing and uplifitng, rather than dragging people down. Even if you what you share is supposedly negative, there are mature ways of talking about it, and re-framing it in a positive way. If it is negative for negative sake, just don’t share it on an online platform. Period. Many people, have enough problems to be getting on with, by all means communicate, but there is a difference to adding to the conversation, and dumping all your shit online. 
Dumping all your shit, affects everyone’s experience online, everyone who reads it, if you need assistance or help, by all means talk to someone, but don’t just dump and project online, as it will only make more people have negative moods and thus negative problems.  This is curse for irresponsible use of social media.  

2. THE BLESSING

The blessing of social media, of course there are also many positive voices at there! Memes that make you laugh, a chance epsecially while in lockdown to communicate with family and friends! To stand up for things, worth fighting for!  Also, a means of promoting a service or business, a way of showing the world who you are! 🙂
This in actuality can raise spirits, rather than diminish, this is why it is ever more important for people like you to post when you are happy and want to share something to the world. 🙂 It may seem a simple blessing this, but in actuality it can do wonders, it can inspire people to create their own blog, YouTube Channel, or just even to brighten up their day a little more. 🙂  The power of this change in perception may also allow people to relax and be happier on social media to follow suit. 🙂 Perhaps there is something you want to do, that has been swimming around in your mind, that may
change your life online in a more productive and positive direction.  Also, a blessing is you may also follow or have friende dpeople with this nature woven to them, I ask you if I were to give oyu some advice, to consume their content more often, then once who are naturally negative. 

3. THE SOLUTION: MEDIA MINDFULNESS

Of ocurse, naturally I would not have put a curse up on my blog post, if  I did not have a solution for the problems that may arise when using social media platforms. So I may have elluded to the solution, in my blessing category, but to give oyu a lovely framework to follow, here is my recommend solution to this problem. 

                    Firstly, I would look like to give you an analogy of broadcast channels. Let’s just say there are 10 channels, 1-10, 8 of these channels are filled with negativity, horrible news and rude stuff we don’t want to talk about here; yet 2 of these channels are positive and resonate with you, or at least with what you want to be more like or become. My main solution, would be to filter or perhaps in some cases block these negative channels as much as possible, and make my filiter of ‘channels’ more positive and more alligned with the values are deem most important in my online world. Maybe you like TV show slike Doctor Who, or like to follow celebrities like Joe Sugg and Dianne Buswell, they are very positive people, and overtime would subtly influence you and your mood. That is why it is imperative for you to filter you mediums of online channels to an overall positive outlook.  I want to make clear, I am not saying don’t pay attention to the negative in its entirity, demonising negativity only makes things worse, and the very act of demonising, is in actuality a negative thing in of itself. I am just saying make the skew of your content and information more positive and uplifiting. 
Also, I would ask for you to be aware of your own posts and reactions when you read other peoples posts, and wether these channels are worth keeping on your online feed, maybe even take a break from social media entirely if it isnt contributing to your wellbeing or growth. 

Remember your world is created with what you consume, not only with the food you eat, and the water you drink but also with what you feed your brain. SO, I ask you to use these channels with awareness and great care, but also with an excited opportunitst gleam in your eye, perhaps you could be the next beacon of light, shining for all to see, making and living up to your highest values and making this world a better place for all. 

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May 8th. I am so proud to have this day as my Birthday. Not only this year it is my 21st Birthday, a special one indeed, especially in these unique and special times, but this year in 2020, I also share the 75th Anniversary of VE Day. 
I have always been proud of being born on this day, when 75 years ago, the allies in Europe won against Nazi Germany, and thus the end of World War II. We at the moment have our own personal battles to face, the Lockdown for one, I know has been challenging for all of us, some more than others. 
But know this that 75 years ago, Peace was brought back to our home country, becuase of brave men and women fighting for that freedom, that we take very much for granted today. It was this determination and resilence against frightening odds, on our remote island, that allowed us certain victory. 
Today, in our generation, we still have this peace against War, and yet the fight for the safety of the United Kingdom and the world is a continual battle. There will be wars still left to come, but today is a day of rememberance of the fallen soldiers who gave their lives for our continual prosperity, love, and justice. 
Remember those, and give thanks for the bright future that has been promised and fought for by our soldiers, our teachers, our key workers, and of course our NHS Staff. 🙂
Let us not live in the claws of fear and defeat, but let us aim and strive for what is eternally promised us, love and victory. To Victory. 

I was born on a day when War came to an end. I was born to bring Peace and Positivity to the World. 
That is my Story. 🙂

Take care, and Best Wishes, until next time!
Have a brilliant day! 🙂

Harry Croose,

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"Lockup all your love and go and throw away the key."

Hello, all hope you are well. Especially in these times, if you are reading in 2020, with the Coronavirus lockdown. 🙂 I have had a few requests to write a blog post on things to do while in lockdown; luckily for you my fantastical followers, here it is. 🙂  Here is the long list, with an occasional elaboration, as to why I think they are possibly a great idea for you! 🙂

I will say this however if you have to do something, limit your time watching the news and social media. Awareness is important, but an overstimulation of negative headlines can do more damage them people realise to their psychology. Also make sure that you have a routine, and that you have a variety of things to do, that you most of all enjoy, but also tasks that give you the satisfaction of working towards your goals and dreams. 🙂 

- THE LONG LIST OF IDEAS OF THINGS TO DO -

  1.  PLAN YOUR DAY – Have a To-Do List or a Goals Journal so you have particular objectives to complete so you are not just wasting your time, apologises for the bluntness there, but you no deep down what I say has an element of truth to it, espcially if you don’t have clear goals. I would recommend Google Calendar, to help with time blocking your days.
  2. DEDICATE A WORK PERIOD (per day) – Spend a few hours every day doing tasks wether that be for your Work, School or University. Just make some progress it doesn’t matter how much. If you again plan far ahead, a few hours a day should be sufficent for you to get many of your tasks completed.
  3. READ BOOKS  – There are so MANY books, out there to read. 🙂 Take advantage of Amazon (depsite the new delays), books are a testament to education and mental stimulation, that will certainly keep you entertained.
    Wether it be fiction or non-fiction, experimenting with different genres and authors is a fantastic idea.       
  4.  LISTEN TO AUDIOBOOKS – Listening to Audiobooks, (especially from Audible), again it is amazing, and books can be obtained instantly, and can be listened to via the app. I would personally recommend The Game of Thrones Series and Harry Potter Collection for those who like fantasy. You would find thousands of books, from different genres all at very affordable prices at the moment during lockdown.
  5. WATCHING YOUTUBE – You must have a YouTube account surely, listening/watching some of your favourite YouTubers for surely give you a laugh, education or whatever you are in to!
  6. PLAYING VIDEO GAMES – Wether that be on your Xbox One, Xbox 360, WiiU, and Nintendo 3DS etc. There must be plenty of games you haven’t played or haven;t visited in a long time, perhaps you should play them game. The good news is it does eat up time, the bad news is if you get addicted you won’t have a lot of time for anything else – so be careful on that front. But it is lovely to play all together with the family from time-to-time.  
  7. COMPULSORY HOUSE CHORES – House Chores are neccessarily and everyone seems to dread it, but if you make it a routine in the morning (while let’s say listening to an audiobook), you can just get it done and chores might even become quite therauputic and relaxing after a while, rather than a nuisance.  This includes, washing up, drying up, washing machine maitenance, hanging the washing to dry, changing sheets, and just generic tidying. 
  8.  CLEANING/ TIDYING THE HOUSE – This goes beyond the normal house chore level, where you actually do a proper tidying and cleaning of the house, with a hoover, and polishing your surfaces. and sponging/wiping the floor. This again could be tiresome work but it is certainly fulfilling to get even just one room tidied to the best of your ability. 
  9. HOUSE/GARDEN (RE)DECORATION – Perhaps you have the resources already in your house to redecorate or even to just move the furniture round to give it a new feel to a space, especially being in lockdown it might be a rather good idea to change the scenery or the look of it, every ones in a while. (This also includes your Garden). 
  10. WATCHING DOCUMENTARIES – Education watching of documentaries is always good, is there a period of histroy you wanted to visit? There are plenty of free ones on YouTube, TV Channels, Netflix, Amazon Prime etc. I am personally very in to The Tudor Period at the Moment. 
  11. WATCHING TV – A bit self-explanatory, a good show to watch is always great on occasion. Are their any shows to catch up on that you want to watch? Or any new ones?
  12. WATCHING FILMS – The same as above, are there any films you haven’t watched. I would recommend Disney+ for that. 🙂 
  13. PLAYING BOARD GAMES/ QUIZZES WITH THE FAMILY – These nights are always fun!! Wether it be Monopoly, Cluedo, Scrabble, Frustration etc. Plenty of board games to play, you could even make a tournament of it, with prices!! 
  14. START YOUR OWN BLOG/WEBSITE – Why don’t you spend time, creating a blog/website, you can start one for absolutely free on WordPress. 🙂 Post regularly it may be entertaining for you and you may establish a viewership. 🙂 
  15.  START (OR PLAN) YOUR OWN PERSONAL BRAND/BUSINESS – A great opportunity for you to establish a Personal Brand via Social Media while working from home. Some businesses may even find great opportunities in these period, despite the not so pleasant circumstances.
  16. REVISE FOR YOUR DRIVING THEORY TEST – It is important you know. 🙂 
  17. SKYPE FIRENDS AND OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS – See if they all alright, organise to talk to them every so often even if it just a phone call, but Skype would be preferable. 
  18. BE A POSITIVE INFLUENCE ON SOCIAL MEDIA – Don’t add to the overwhelming numbers of negative posts and naysayers you have duty to yourself and your family to not be sharing unneccessary articles, that may prove detrimental to someones mental health. Be self-aware of what you are sharing, posting and if you do that you will be a beacon of hope online that people need in this dark hour in 2020. Make sure you also spend less time on social media though it has as already said become a rather depressing place. Filter out those who convey messages you don’t want and replaces them with those that allign with your way of thinking (a more positive ideal). This will change your personal algorthim both on social media and yourself. 
  19. WRITE DOWN YOUR LONG-TERM/SHORT-TERM GOALS – Refer to them every day, and take action accordingly to those goals, whenever possible. 
  20. SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOUR FAMILY – An excellent opportunity to spend more itme with your family members, and to build upon the loving relationships that you have. 
  21. DEVELOP A HEALTH PLAN/ROUTINE – Perhpas you should try doing tha tone daily run or walk for exercise, 
    plan a personal gym in your back garden to get some fitness in. Even if it is for 20 mins or so, it is al lot better than doing nothing – keep active. 
  22. SPEND TIME IN THE FRESH AIR – Wether it be on your one walk to the shop or for exercise, or even just to open your bedroom window let the fresh air, you feel better for it. 
  23. WRITE A BOOK – Everyone has ideas of a story they want to write, maybe it is the time for you to write that best-selling novel. (Especially you Creative Wrting Students!!) 🙂 
  24. WRITE A SCRIPT – Same as above, maybe you want to become a script writer one day, perhpaas for Doctor Who or a show you would like to develop. 
  25. WRITE IN A GRATITUDE JOURNAL – Studies show that this has a massive positive effect on Mental Health, it work wonders, make a list of what you are grateful everyday no matter how small or how big. 
  26. CREATE A YOUTUBE CHANNEL – Create your own content, I believe everyone in this world has a gift to share with us all, why don’t you show us yours. 🙂 
  27. UPDATE AND BUILD A PRESCENCE ON SOCIAL MEDIA – This would work wonders with the Number 26. Learning skills such as marketing and graphic design would improve your layout.
  28. START AN ONLINE COURSE (SKILLSHARE) – There are plenty of online courses, for you learn different skills such as Art, Graphic Design, Business Coaching and so much more. Skillshare is very affordable if you use it. 🙂 
  29. START YOUR DUKE OF EDINBURGH AWARD (UK) – Even thugh you can’t do your residential, you can still strat your Duke of Edinburgh Gold Award for those in the UK, it takes up to 18 months to complete. Hopefully by then lockdown will be gone! But yes the Duke of Edinburgh on the CV will work wonders with a potential employer. 🙂
  30. LEARN AN INSTRUMENT – Such as a piano, guitar or drums their are plenty of instruments to learn and to get good at, with enough persistance you may even be able to compose your own music. 
  31. LEARN A NEW LANGUAGE (DUOLINGO) – This would be such a help when you are able to travel again if you really wanted to go to Paris for example (Disneyland), learn French, a great opportunity, use Duolingo it is absolutely FREE and an amzing app. 🙂 
  32. PLAY DUNGEONS AND DRAGONS WITH YOUR FAMILY – For those nerds and geeks out there, me included, Dungeons and Dragons may be a good idea, a fantasy game involving the imagination, where you are the characters in your DM’s world, may be a great side campaign/activity to do. 🙂 
  33. RESEARCH JOB OPPORTUNITIES e.g. GRADUATE JOBS – Plenty of time to research opportunities for jobs and graduate placements (once lockdown has been lifted). 
  34. ALSO FOR UNDERGRADUATE/POSTGRADUATE OPPORTUNITIES – Spend the time looking for your future academic plans, what course did you want to do and why? 🙂
  35. LISTEN TO PODCASTS – There are plenty of podcasts to watch wether your taste is Drama, Comedy or Personal Development, there are plenty to select from. 🙂 
  36. LEARN ARTISTIC DRAWING/PAINTING ETC – Have you got a passion for art, or like to draw? Make your own artistic masterpiece!
  37. LOGIC PUZZLES and RIDDLES – These are always good to get the mind challenged. 
  38. WATCH MOTIVATIONAL/ INSPIRATIONAL VIDEOS – Enough said really, it gets you in the mood for doing your great things. 🙂
  39. LEARN HOW TO CREATE AND EDIT VIDEOS (Adobe) – This is a great skill to learn wether in your own leisure.
  40. LEARN HOW TO COOK OR COOK BETTER – If you can cook well, then trust me this skill with serve oyu for life (pun intended). May even win over a date or two! 🙂
  41. PLAY OUTDOOR GAMES (IN THE GARDEN) – Playing football, Skittles and other outdoor games in your garden may be a great combination of getting exercise, having fresh air while also having lots of fun! 🙂
  42. SPENDING TIME WITH YOURSELF – Just becuase you are in lockdown does not give you the excuse to be mean to yourself, make sure you are very kind to yourself no matter what circumstances you are in, and make sure you get the appropriate help if neccessary, your future self will thank you for it. 🙂
  43. THE IMPORTANCE OF SELF-GROOMING/HYGIENE – I know it is basic, but it is easy to forget, if you are not going out you may not put as much effort it, that is understandable and even logical. But you still need to take care of the basics, brushing your teeth, washing your hands especially, washing your hair and having showers/and or baths regularly. It will make you feel better, if you look after your body, your body will look after you. You will feel less groggy and more energised for your tasks and more excited for future prospects. 🙂 
  44. HELPING OTHERS IN YOUR HOUSEHOLD  – Help others, you will feel good helping them. DO to others as you would hve then do to you. 🙂
  45. VOLUNTEER – If you are brave enough like the NHS and other Key workers (#legends #NHS ) you could spend your days volunteering for example to help the homeless and help the elderly get their shopping. This is also part of the Duke of Edinburgh, and is an absolutely brilliant thing to do in this time, so long as you are healthy and able to do so. 🙂
  46. STAYING HEALTHY: (FOOD) – Make sure to eat plenty and drink plenty to keep optimal hydration. Also make sure that you are eating the right foods more often such as fruit, vegetables, carbohydrates etc. But also giving yourself enough time for treats.
  47. TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE TRIALS AND REDUCED PRICES – Online shops are reducing prices due to this crash and restriction of movement. So take advantage of that and buy stuff that would be productive towards your goals as well as your lesiure. 
  48. ENJOY SHOPPING (when you go to restock) – More so than not people are sacred at going out, but when it ocmes to shopping it is important that you do so. Be grateful with the pleasures you had when shopping in the past, with the awareness of current social restrictions. 
  49. PLAN FOR WHEN THE LOCKDOWN FINISHES!! PLAN AN AMAZING EVENT – An event for friends and/or family, also in general terms plan for when life returns to normal. 🙂
  50. BE AWESOME, BE YOURSELF – Remember that you are legend always… 
 
So there you have it, hope you found this list inspiring as much as it was long winded. 🙂
Speak to you soon, until the next blog post! 🙂
Harry Croose 🙂

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"Confidence comes not from always being right, but not fearing to be wrong ."

Hey, welcome back to my blog – today we will be talking about the vital importance of building confidence. Now to many when we talk about the confidence we see someone who is extrovert, charismatic and is seemingly unmarked by negativity and criticism. However, this image of confidence is merely an illusion. Confidence can be shown externally through the means above but also through many more factors in life.  Here are 7 Steps to build confidence.

 

1. Create Confidence Categories

Confidence to me is how one sees themselves but more particularly honed towards a person’s goals for example in social interactions, (which is the most common perception of what a confident person is).  But confidence is so much more than just someone who has master socialising but can also be with someone’s health, finance, career so on and so forth. These Confidence categories are a very important part of raising Self-Awareness as far as confidence is concerned because it can help you identify where you are strong in confidence and where you are less so.  These categories can also go into further sub-categories like health can be further broken down into more segments like nutrition and muscle gain fitness.  This may bring some further awareness to you – as someone could be easily confident in themselves when it comes to eating healthily and looking after his/her nutrition, but that same person may not be confident in muscle gain fitness. 

2. Write a Goals List

Writing a Goals List, in summary, would be a really good way of not only further affirming your self-awareness of your confidence level but would also give you a clear distinct direction to head in to potentially improve your confidence in certain areas of your life to improve your wellbeing, happiness and success in life.

3. Build foundational habits

Building foundational habits is incredibly important for confidence building. Building habits in areas of personal strengths and weakness, such as budgeting in finance and meditation in personal wellbeing. These habits allow you to have the practise and build momentum in the areas you which to improve in your life.  


4. Leap of Faith (Be courageous)

Sometimes, just taking a dive outside your comfort zone, and being courageous is the quickest way to expand your horizons as far as confidence is concerned. After all, before confidence is courage. Confidence is being contented and able in your own comfort zone, courage is the act to expand your comfort zone. This is the most drastic and possibly the scariest but will get you the most results and insights even if you believe you didn’t do well.  

5. Self-Education

As you would research for an essay, a way to build confidence in a particular subject whether for academics or for own personal education is to research and self-educate yourself in the areas you want to improve further. This doesn’t have to be for just confidence but can be for all facets of life. 

6. Fulfill your needs

Occasionally, we do not feel confident, because of a selfless need to look after others, before ourselves, make sure that you are looking after yourself when it comes to your own basic needs such as personal hygiene, grooming, hydration etc. The lack of fulfilment of these needs like a domino effect will still affect and knock against your confidence levels. Having these established will give you that solid foundation. 

7. Ask for help

There is no need to go through this challenge alone. If you have supportive friends and family, perhaps you could ask them to assist you and help you grow in confidence, after all, they know you better. You could also ask some people at University, for example, a Career’s Adviser, Lecturer or Councillor depending on your needs and self-awareness as to where your confidence is limited. There are also apps and local charities that help young people.


Bonus Point. Treat yourself.

 

Nothing gives you more confidence, then the confidence to treat yourself occasionally whether it be a delicious meal out somewhere with your friends or buying something online that you have always wanted. This can be a great way of self-affirming to yourself and a good way to remind you how awesome you are.

 

 

 

Anyways, until next time, please check out my other blog posts on similar subjects. Also, my courses if they interest you. 😊

Take care and have a lovely evening. Remember that even the shy person is confident int eh idea that they are shy. SO in a sense, shy people are still confident. 😊

Harry,

 

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"Someone's Opinion of You - does not have to become your reality."

For many months, now I was caught into a sneaky way of thinking, which held a lot of knocks to my Self-Esteem and confidence, but now am stronger than ever. Back in Business! Here to give YOU another one of my insights.

 Today’s topic is something I learnt from my many months of emotional healing and self-reflection.  A lot of this I’d discovered was that I was caring too much of the opinions of others. Now be careful now don’t take it literally, this phrase is often used when we are essentially fed up, but that is used in a mental framework of a victim. However, this phrase can also be used in as a way of releasing unnecessarily burdens that either you or others have placed on you.
 I am here to give you 5 strategies that helped me get over this wall. One quick point first though, remember that other people’s opinions can still have large benefits. Just remember that their opinions do not define who you are.

1. Focus on yourself and your Needs

There is an annoying stigma in society, that if you are selfless you are great and if you are selfish you are a horrible person. This form of assumption, that allows unkind people to take advantage of you – due to your social complexes on ‘what is right’.

How to solve this would be to solely focus on yourself. I know right so selfish! But you need to fill your own cup first as it were, before you start helping others. I am not saying to go out your way to be unkind to someone (even if they deserve it) but merely to prioritise yourself other everything else, and yes even your family.

The more you invest in yourself today – the more you will be able to help them in the future. In fact, helping yourself first will likely mean you will be in a much better position to help others more so then even if you were too selfless of your own needs and desires.

This topic is such a big one that I have wrote a separate blog post here – How to fulfil your needs.

2. Establish Strong Independent Boundaries

Establish concrete boundaries in different areas of your life. Whether that be in the realms of love, relationships, friendships, money, emotions, psychology and so on. This mind does not necessarily come from a lack of confidence or self-esteem. I believe that a lack of secure boundaries in these sections of oneself can be one of many reasons that a lack of confidence/ self-esteem continues to manifest in your life.

How does this relate to how to not care what other people think? Well, people with what are considered to be weaker boundaries have an obsession of the need to be validated by others. (Hence you care what people think). Therefore, they require external environments to control their boundaries, which if you put it like that sounds ridiculous!

In human biology, we have a need to be in a pack of people, so we naturally have homeostasis of what the supposed conformed boundaries are. But remember that sometimes our human nature struggles to differentiate the difference between thriving and surviving in these instances. I want you to be thriving! So don’t use this as an excuse for you to be thriving! This brings be to my next point.

3. Change Your Environment

Life is too short. To guilt-trip yourself into staying in an environment that does not vibe with you. Remember the previous point you want to thrive! If that means moving friend groups, distancing yourself from toxicity, and moving towards an environment that you want. Then do it. Yes, it will take a leap of faith, to make such a drastic change.  

If you can’t just change your environment, perhaps you are in a job, or in a position where you don’t want to be. Then I would suggest you change your environment in small stages. Whether it be spending less time with someone or retreating to nature to relieve stress. All of these steps will say to your mind, that you are the top priority, and will undo the extreme selflessness programming and will help you care less of what over people think. 


4. Find Your Life Purpose

One thing that will not ground you more, on not caring what people think is to have a Life Purpose. A Life Purpose is either a big goal or a massive change that you want to make in your life, which is aligned with your personal values and needs. This is like your destination. This will allow you to make your own heading if you will to reach this said goal and make this aligned into reality. This could be starting a blog, write a book, start a YouTube Channel, to Rule the World!
If you have your own goal then you will DO things that will benefit YOU.

If you are interested in finding your life purpose then read my post; How to Find Your Life Purpose

5. Build Confidence and Self-Esteem

Building sufficient confidence and Self-Esteem is so important. This is the bedrock of success and happiness. If you perceive yourself to not have very good confidence and self-esteem. Firstly, you are confident and do have Self-Esteem – let me explain before you go jumping to conclusions.  It is just that you have been convinced that you don’t by your external environments justified by your past experiences.

I have a deep belief, that we all have great levels of confidence and self-esteem. You know that memory-player in the back of your mind reaffirming what you believe to be – that is what is controlling your confidence and self-esteem.
This here is an important insight, “your THOUGHTS are not the same as FACT.” Just because you say, ‘you’re stupid’, ‘you’re not good enough’ does not mean it is true. In fact, all it is is a bad radio station and all you need to do is change the frequency.  Which you can do easily! Let’s go backwards your confidence – comes from emotions, and your emotions come from thoughts.  This is a very vital insight into your own mental psychology, that I hope you find very helpful. If you have the strong confidence in yourself – you will find that naturally your boundaries will be stronger and will be more protected from status-quo thinking, following the herd and victim mentalities which make you vulnerable to the effects on other people’s opinions. I have many blog other posts on Confidence and Self-Esteem so please use the search on the blog-menu and type in ‘confidence’. To find lots of posts, resources and mini-courses to help you. 


Bonus Point. Start a Self-Reflection Practise

To give you some suggestions that really benefited me through this obstacle. I want to recommend for you to start self-reflecting. Whether it be through…

– Journaling
– Reading Self-Help Books
– Reading Fiction Books
– Meditation
– Write your own story.

 

This will allow you to get what you read in theory, into practice. I want YOU, yes I am looking at you! To have a successful and happy and prosperous life! 😊

Until the Next Blog Post! Take Care and Look after yourself!! 

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4 Steps to Dealing with Haters

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4 STEPS TO DEALING WITH HATERS

Written by Harry Croose

"Hating on someone, or something is only giving power to that thing. It becomes a bigger problem in your mind. It's okay to dislike something, but never hate it - you only lose your power and time."

1. Accepting that Haters are everywhere.

Basically, if you are a hater why are you here. To plot your revenge, to comment under one of my blog posts or YouTube Videos because I upset you; or are you here to eat my chocolate cheesecake because the last one is definitely crossing the line.  Also hyperlinks can be very useful.

2. Understand why they Hate

There was a time where I actually paid attention to these individuals who sit down in life and have nothing better to do than complain and shout at you for doing ‘the wrong thing’ or ‘that you are weird’ . Well here is a reality check for those of you that are haters of my work, look at yourself. What are you doing and contributing to the world? You can’t say anything to me or too anyone at that if you are not following your own path and are merely following the masses, because you are still scared that you might fail.

3. Re-frame the situation.

I don’t hate you if you are a hater, I respect that you have an opinion; but to waste your precious time on this earth which as you read this (by the way I appreciate) you will loses this seconds forever. Instead of complaining or being a victim 100% of the time, harness your energy to things that could actually change your life.

 

  • Direct your energy away from your haters and invest it into yourself
  •  Understand that it isn’t about you, it is about them.


4. Maintain distance to your haters.

There was a time where I was a hater of people who seemed to have it better than me, but when I started to stop comparing myself to others. I felt so much more free and had a tenfold more time and energy to make the impact I want to make on the world. I am not giving up not now, I will never give up. I am not stopping just because my crush no longer likes me, I am not stopping because I haven’t got 50 likes on YouTube or 1000 subscribers I am going to keep pushing ahead; we must together keep pushing forward that is the only way we will truly reach the land we were promised off when we were read a bedtime story with a nice cup of hot chocolate.

Dreams can come true, and no matter where you are in life or how far you think your behind; you can make it. 
I believe in you. 
Lovers always Win. 

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How to deal with Toxic Relationships

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HOW TO DEAL WITH TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

Written by Harry Croose

"Hating on someone, or something is only giving power to that thing. It becomes a bigger problem in your mind. It's okay to dislike something, but never hate it - you only lose your power and time."

There was a time where I was a hater of people who seemed to have it better than me, but when I started to stop comparing myself to others. I felt so much more free and had a tenfold more time and energy to make the impact I want to make on the world. I am not giving up not now, I will never give up. I am not stopping just because my crush no longer likes me, I am not stopping because I haven’t got 50 likes on YouTube or 1000 subscribers I am going to keep pushing ahead; we must together keep pushing forward that is the only way we will truly reach the land we were promised off when we were read a bedtime story with a nice cup of hot chocolate.

1. Distance yourself from Toxic People.

Distance yourself from that person or group of people as much as possible. If they are a family member, a close friend or a co-worker, then this is most likely a lot tougher to do rather than someone like an acquaintance or even a stranger. It’s important to realise the effect that they have on you, and how they drain or even change your personality to something you are not.

Many people call them energy vampires or even master manipulators who are able to change your personality instantly just by their presence. I’d strongly advise in order to truly break this image, is to talk to them consciously with this idea in mind that they are changing in you in some way; you might be able to either dispel this effect entirely or at least build resistance to their blows grounding yourself in the now.  Taking a hold on your personal power and strength is also a recommended path to take as these encounters can be quite strenuous, to say the least.

 

2. The Power of Perception

Universal Truths like ‘Life is too short’ and ‘the power of gratitude’ and how these problems are probably so insignificant to the Universe might help with these feelings of fear or toxicity when confronting them.

Now I know I write as if these people are infected like we are in the zombie apocalypse but the majority of this toxicity will probably be your own perception of them and not necessarily them. 
But sometimes maybe you will come across someone who is vindictive in their ways and wants to do give themselves the upper hand without any look to the consequences to their actions.

3. Attempt Reconcile

Many people would pull the card and would say to retreat and not get involved with them as much as possible.
 However I would say that you should depending on the person resolve the issue, either by just chatting to them especially if this said person is a beloved family member that you of course care for, the only way I find that you can truly resolve an issue is through no what you do necessarily but what drives the very actions we take every day.

4. Unconditional Love

Act through authentic unconditional love to the people that you care for and even to those that you hate, because what resists persists. 

I would know cause I already have many regrets, and the core rooted reason was that I didn’t follow my heart. You also must be careful not to be too hasty or brutal to the other person even they seem to deserve it because you never know when the tables might turn and they might be your only call for help one day; besides people change and yes even you. Of course, there are a few exceptions but change is the law of the Universe and no matter how someone tries to stay the same you can’t run forever. 

5. Develop your Spiritual Awareness

As I write this I can think of many ‘toxic relationships’ that dissolved merely just being present with myself, and even through meditation, just because my energies were on a different frequency to either those on a lower vibration or my lower frequency thoughts subsided. This is not to say that anyone is lower than anyone else but there mindset is there is the only difference. Looking at this from more of a spiritual angle rather than a rational one to me personally allows the problem to be solved easier. 

But let me make this clear it does not mean lower your boundaries and let them walk over you, I am only suggesting quieting the complaining voice we all have and try to resolve this issue through compassion and kindness. Then if that doesn’t work then try distancing yourself from that person rather than argue and break the relationship tie completely because you never know when they might change and because you left you door open just a crack, you may if you please rekindle that relationship whether it be a family member, a friend or an ex-lover. 

Let go of all things bad and embrace all the good things about them and appreciate that we are all different and none of us are perfect. None of us can be truly right or wrong, toxic or non-toxic, we can only try to be our best, and your best if tapped into the potential is only infinity itself. 

You deserve love, compassion and a sense of belonging and you should accept nothing less. You are a hero in the making you only just have to believe and you are already halfway there!!!

Anything is possible! 🙂

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