BLOG HAPPINESS     SELF - HELP      0 COMMENTS Written by Harry Croose "Happiness to me is being eternally grateful for the times you have, nomatter if they are good or bad; while perceiving the world through the lens of mortality and love."  Tweet 2. Establish Strong Independent Boundaries What I mean by this is no matter who you are or what you want to be there is a path in life where we all cross. The barriers of our happiness levels, these are things which can change us and our direction forever because we realise in a flicker of clarity that we have been going in the wrong direction for many years or in fact we have been on the right path all along and all we need to do is face forward and be brave for what lies ahead of us. I am just writing my thoughts down at the moment and have decided form this blog-post on wards to write my blog as more of a reflective self-journal for myself, with hopefully some benefit to you. Because, I love writing and expressing my thoughts and feelings and that is what I find truly satisfying. Happiness in my opinion is the most important part of our existence on this earth and many people have come under the illusion of how money and materialism is the ultimate goal to happiness. Of course having resources is always a plus and can help significantly on your journey in this Capitalist world. However as I have mentioned before on my blog many I'll deceived by the notion that pieces of paper with numbers on can provide you happiness when in reality it is only a tool for you to find yourself. I in my life aim incredibly high in all aspects of my life including my financial future but I believe it is what you do with the tools and skills you are given that truly defines you than how much or how little you actually have. I am sure we have had moments in our lives where we feel lost and confused looking up at the stars out our window asking despite me having what I want I actually feel less whole. True happiness is being one with yourself during good and bad times rather than being distance and emotionally reserved in good or bad periods in your life. Love and happiness I believe are two sides of the same coin as when you give unconditional love, a core feeling of happiness occurs throughout your mind, body and soul, as you are aligned with a sense of purpose not greater than yourself necessarily as on e must be careful not to fall into self-neglect but equal and in align with your own core values and beliefs. It is better to live in truth and be happy than to live a lie to live up to other peoples expectations and not your own. If you don't want to do something…

BLOG EMBRACING YOUR DARK SIDE     SOCIAL      0 COMMENTS Written by Harry Croose "If one is to understand the great mystery, one must study all its aspects, not just the dogmatic narrow view of the Jedi." - Emperor Palpatine / Darth Sidious Tweet In a reflective mood today I was. As I gazed out of the window watching the snow slowly I felt an intuitive call to write this. My line of thought was that all things will eventually melt no matter how beautiful or unpleasant everything fades away. A truth that is true of all things.  Carl Jung has dedicated a lot of research to the shadow-self and how all of us have a shadow created by repression of feelings and how we respond to experiences. In order for us to do good, we must embrace both sides of ourselves. A very important differentiation that is overlooked  we always associate light with good and darkness with evil.  When in actual fact rays of light could reveal us to the danger around us and darkness may be the one that hides and protect us, this is why we need both to survive and adapt. That’s why we have both day and night cause we would just have day, and without night we wouldn’t be able to appreciate the other. I have found that in my personal experience once I appreciated the fact that I had a side of me that has a dark side. Then I was able to strengthen the light side as well, as the stronger my shadow side, the stronger my light side became as there must be balance.  Once I discovered and embraced my dark side, I was able to love all things more deeply and I felt a whole again rather than rejecting and repressing a part of myself that I was conditioned to believe was bad by society and some media. I am not blaming society for these constructs as without them I wouldn’t have grown into the person I am, and I wouldn’t have been able to have grown such a self-awareness of myself.  I believe that it is not what happens to a person that makes them who we are, but it is how we respond to them that makes us the person we are.  Self-acceptance and loving and giving your dark side (and your light side) a hug in extreme times (where your too positive or too negative in your eyes) is incredibly important.  Just give yourself some breathing room to just sit with your emotions as they arise and feel your emotions with an intention of self-love. Sometimes Jung says this shadow-work can be emotionally relaxing and other times really challenging.  This is because many of the emotions that you have repressed in your past is gradually becoming to resurface to the conscious mind from the subconscious.  Remember though that the past has happened and cannot be physically changed, but with the emotional tension release of the…